Sep 20

My Man…

my baby shower

I could go on and on about how thankful that I am for my husband. Like I said a while back, I really do not know what I would do without him. Honestly, I think that everyday when you wake up, you have a choice to run towards or away from your marriage. Dan and I have been through a lot in our 10 years together, and I know the Lord prepared us for this year long before we realized it. The thing is the divorce rate after your child dies is stunning. I’m horrible at research (this is D’s area of speciality), and I tried to find statistics, but could not quite find what I was looking for but basically, I’m pretty sure that it is one of the top, if not the top, reasons why people divorce. The last percentage that I heard was that after the death of a child 75% of marriages end. WOW people. That’s huge!

The day we got married we decided that no matter what that we would never mention the “D” word in our house. We are by far from being perfect, but we chose to run to each other instead of away. When I look at Dan, I see Mary Anna. I mean it’s kinda hard not to when they share the same lips! I told this to my mentor recently, and she said, “Yeah Kari that’s the reason some people walk away from their marriage is because it is simply to hard to look at their spouse because they see their baby.” For us it’s different, although the way he holds his mouth sometimes can bring me to my knees because I miss her, it makes me feel close to her. She is half of me and half of him. How could I lose both of them?

Once she was gone, we knew the road ahead was going to be horrible, but we knew that there was no question but to do it together. We were going to fight, because our little fighter taught us how to never give up, and we were going to love, because she taught us a love like we have never known before. My heart aches for every marriage out there that’s struggling, and I just pray for restoration. Clinging to your spouse is hard, but it is worth it. I wake up feeling blessed that I married my best friend.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
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It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
LOVE NEVER FAILS.
And now these three remain; faith, hope and love. 
But the greatest of these is love.
1 Cor 13: 1-13

It’s our prayer that the Lord will protect our home and our marriage. We pray this every night. There’s nothing about us that’s saying it’s always easy, but we just knew that we had and wanted to Keep Walking TOGETHER.